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Content Warning: sexism, racism, ageism, sexual harassment and assault, weight discrimination, pregnancy discrimination, suicide and mental illness.
#117 “I was once called ‘Barbie’ by a coworker for asking a dumb question.”
I was once called 'Barbie' by a coworker for asking a dumb question.
#116 “You can either make a stand and have your career limited or accept racism should be the norm and move on.”
You can either make a stand and have your career limited or accept racism should be the norm and move on.
#99 “Just another day in tech.”
Just another day in tech.
#91 “I am one of two engineering managers on my team and we both report to the same general manager….”
I am one of two engineering managers on my team and we both report to the same general manager. This review cycle, our manager (man) asked the other engineering manager (man) to provide performance feedback about me (woman), but did not ask me to provide feedback about the other engineering manager.
#78 “He sees me, says 'excuse me' and leaves. After another two minutes he gets back in and says that he saw me and thought that I'm probably a designer…”
He sees me, says ‘excuse me’ and leaves. After another two minutes he gets back in and says that he saw me and thought that I'm probably a designer or something and that he went to the wrong conf room.
#75 “It was my decision to have a child, and I'm not expecting any special treatment because of it….”
It was my decision to have a child, and I'm not expecting any special treatment because of it. But this time before an after my maternity leave, was actually time when I worked hard and had contributions that I haven't gotten the recognition for.
#74 “I've started noticing that other people making the exact same 'mistakes' are not getting any comments on them.”
I've started noticing that other people making the exact same "mistakes" are not getting any comments on them.
#62 “He said ‘I'll tell you what, if you can close this <grip strengthening exercise thing - the 'medium difficulty' one> then I'll answer your question.’”
He said ‘I’ll tell you what, if you can close this <grip strengthening exercise thing - the 'medium difficulty' one> then I'll answer your question.’
#61 “I did all of the 'event planning' for my team. Organizing team happy hours, team outings, etc. One person thanked me saying that they couldn't do it, they'd be bad at it….”
I did all of the 'event planning' for my team. Organizing team happy hours, team outings, etc. One person thanked me saying that they couldn't do it, they'd be bad at it. Saying that I'm good at this social organizing stuff and if we ever get a woman on our team then they could help.
#60 “‘We can't blame the entire population just for a few 'bad apples.' What that cop did was wrong, but they're not all like that.’”
‘We can't blame the entire population just for a few 'bad apples.' What that cop did was wrong, but they're not all like that.’
#59 “‘We also don’t want to just give handouts. I'm also not white and I worked really hard to get where I am today.’”
‘We also don’t want to just give handouts. I'm also not white and I worked really hard to get where I am today.’
#58 “‘I just don't feel as safe in some situations around different kinds of people.’”
‘I just don’t feel as safe in some situations around different kinds of people.’
#57 “‘People just need to keep their own families in check. You make sure you raise your kids right, and be good in your own household.’”
‘People just need to keep their own families in check. You make sure you raise your kids right, and be good in your own household.’
#56 “‘I don't feel as comfortable on that form of transportation, because the black people are usually more loud and rowdy.’”
‘I don’t feel as comfortable on that form of transportation, because the black people are usually more loud and rowdy.’
#23 “A female teammate was presenting something and a male teammate kept interrupting her unnecessarily without letting her complete.”
A female teammate was presenting something and a male teammate kept interrupting her unnecessarily without letting her complete.
#21 “I've only ever worked with 2 black people.”
I've only ever worked with 2 black people.
#20 “A white male colleague of mine found a distribution list called BlackChicksWhoCode. He said ‘Look! This is so racist! Where's the one for WhiteDudesWhoCode?’”
A white male colleague of mine found a distribution list called BlackChicksWhoCode. He said ‘Look! This is so racist! Where's the one for WhiteDudesWhoCode?’
#11 “I was speaking passionately about a particular option when one of my male colleagues said, ‘Okay, okay...just calm down.’”
I was speaking passionately about a particular option when one of my male colleagues said, ‘Okay, okay...just calm down.’