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Content Warning: sexism, racism, ageism, sexual harassment and assault, weight discrimination, pregnancy discrimination, suicide and mental illness.
#59 “‘We also don’t want to just give handouts. I'm also not white and I worked really hard to get where I am today.’”
‘We also don’t want to just give handouts. I'm also not white and I worked really hard to get where I am today.’
#58 “‘I just don't feel as safe in some situations around different kinds of people.’”
‘I just don’t feel as safe in some situations around different kinds of people.’
#57 “‘People just need to keep their own families in check. You make sure you raise your kids right, and be good in your own household.’”
‘People just need to keep their own families in check. You make sure you raise your kids right, and be good in your own household.’
#56 “‘I don't feel as comfortable on that form of transportation, because the black people are usually more loud and rowdy.’”
‘I don’t feel as comfortable on that form of transportation, because the black people are usually more loud and rowdy.’
#55 “I started receiving inappropriate emails from another employee in my business unit.”
I started receiving inappropriate emails from another employee in my business unit.
#54 “My manager brought me in for a 1:1 one day and said he had a long talk with his wife... and prayed about me. He decided he would cut my salary by $25k…”
My manager brought me in for a 1:1 one day and said he had a long talk with his wife (who didn't work with the company in any way) and prayed about me. He decided he would cut my salary by $25k…
#53 “When I told my current boss (male) that my new boss (female) was requesting a raise on my behalf that accompanied my change in title…”
When I told my current boss (male) that my new boss (female) was requesting a raise on my behalf that accompanied my change in title, he said he was disappointed that making more money seemed so important to me.
#52 “I worked for a young (less than 30 yrs), female manager at my first job after college graduation, and I had another young, female peer on the team….”
I worked for a young (less than 30 yrs), female manager at my first job after college graduation, and I had another young, female peer on the team…
#51 “My male boss started calling me by a diminutive name out of the blue.”
My male boss started calling me by a diminutive name out of the blue.
#50 “Working at a conference, I had an older male come up to me asking if I actually worked for the company or was hired for the day.”
Working at a conference, I had an older male come up to me asking if I actually worked for the company or was hired for the day.
#49 “At Amazon I worked with a Black man who was working on his promotion to SDEII. Getting promoted was anything but easy for him: he wasn’t even being treated with respect by his teammates…”
At Amazon I worked with a Black man who was working on his promotion to SDEII. Getting promoted was anything but easy for him: he wasn’t even being treated with respect by his teammates…
#48 “My reporting manager liked to give me lessons on how to be an effective woman in tech, thinking that he was an ally in the space.”
My reporting manager liked to give me lessons on how to be an effective woman in tech, thinking that he was an ally in the space.
#47 “…the same man walked up to me and scratched the small of my back while leaving.”
…the same man walked up to me and scratched the small of my back while leaving.
#46 “ ‘…the only thing holding my promotion back is that I am too quiet and the process needs me to be more outspoken and assertive.’ ”
…my manager (later my skip) kept telling me that I am already operating at the next level in terms of the technical bar required, but the only thing holding my promotion back is that I am too quiet and the process needs me to be more outspoken and assertive.
#45 “I would restate my colleague's suggestion and get much more positive feedback.”
I would restate my colleague's suggestion and get much more positive feedback.
#44 “The disagreements were always courteous, but after a while the manager invited the colleague to less meetings.”
The disagreements were always courteous, but after a while the manager invited the colleague to less meetings.
#43 “Time and again, I have been made to feel that I am invisible.”
Time and again, I have been made to feel that I am invisible.
#42 “… because white men face no consequences for their unprofessional behavior, because these same men are asked to be on the diversity and inclusion committees.”
...I have changed teams because my leadership took no actions to make sure that our work environment was a professional one, because white men face no consequences for their unprofessional behavior, because these same men are asked to be on the diversity and inclusion committees.
#41 “At what point can I be myself without having to reach for some ideal?”
At what point can I be myself without having to reach for some ideal?
#40 “There are times where I am the subject matter expert on a topic but the questions are almost always pointed to the men.”
There are times where I am the subject matter expert on a topic but the questions are almost always pointed to the men.