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Content Warning: sexism, racism, ageism, sexual harassment and assault, weight discrimination, pregnancy discrimination, suicide and mental illness.
#79 “You come off as rude and selfish sometimes.”
‘You come off as rude and selfish sometimes.’
#78 “He sees me, says 'excuse me' and leaves. After another two minutes he gets back in and says that he saw me and thought that I'm probably a designer…”
He sees me, says ‘excuse me’ and leaves. After another two minutes he gets back in and says that he saw me and thought that I'm probably a designer or something and that he went to the wrong conf room.
#77 “The director was a few drinks in when he approached me and offered to introduce me to the CEO.”
The director was a few drinks in when he approached me and offered to introduce me to the CEO.
#76 “For most of my career my team has been all male.”
For most of my career my team has been all male.
#75 “It was my decision to have a child, and I'm not expecting any special treatment because of it….”
It was my decision to have a child, and I'm not expecting any special treatment because of it. But this time before an after my maternity leave, was actually time when I worked hard and had contributions that I haven't gotten the recognition for.
#74 “I've started noticing that other people making the exact same 'mistakes' are not getting any comments on them.”
I've started noticing that other people making the exact same "mistakes" are not getting any comments on them.
#73 “…one of the men asked if I was there as the wife of the person standing next to me.”
…one of the men asked if I was there as the wife of the person standing next to me.
#72 “Management and HR seems unwilling to even acknowledge that there is a problem at all beyond surface platitudes.”
Management and HR seems unwilling to even acknowledge that there is a problem at all beyond surface platitudes.
![#71 “[I] even showed my badge to him so he could read the name. He told me that he was not even going to try, my name was too hard.”](https://images.squarespace-cdn.com/content/v1/5f4542d7ef234c1168af5977/1600642059706-15GXBVV5BQM4JXF9BKMP/71-15.png)
#71 “[I] even showed my badge to him so he could read the name. He told me that he was not even going to try, my name was too hard.”
[I] even showed my badge to him so he could read the name. He told me that he was not even going to try, my name was too hard.
#70 “He was disappointed that our company wasn't observing MLK Day….”
He was disappointed that our company wasn't observing MLK Day. The White guy sitting beside me replied something like: ‘That's okay, we can take you out to KFC for lunch!’
#69 “I feel if I report him, instead of being 'the Engineer who has been leading our most high profile account,' I will become 'the woman who was harassed’.”
I feel if I report him, instead of being ‘the Engineer who has been leading our most high profile account’, I will become ‘the woman who was harassed ‘.
#68 “I see a pattern that when men talk a lot about his family at work, it’s a plus because people see him as both a good engineer and a good family man…”
I see a pattern that when men talk a lot about his family at work, it’s a plus because people see him as both a good engineer and a good family man; when women talk a lot about her family at work, people especially men treat her as less professional.
#67 “Then this mentor started to give her shoulder massage and she was terrified and made up excuses and run away.”
Then this mentor started to give her shoulder massage and she was terrified and made up excuses and run away.
#66 “The female SME was continually interrupted by some of the more outspoken, male engineers.”
The female SME was continually interrupted by some of the more outspoken, male engineers.
#65 “After a few weeks, he let me know that he would not be attending any more…”
After a few weeks, he let me know that he would not be attending any more…
#64 “AWS has approved a list of ‘safe’ (their word) names for use in this type of content to avoid using real employee names.”
AWS has approved a list of ‘safe’ (their word) names for use in this type of content to avoid using real employee names.
#63 “I set up a meeting with the candidate and invited a white male coworker along to shadow….”
I set up a meeting with the candidate and invited a white male coworker along to shadow…
#62 “He said ‘I'll tell you what, if you can close this <grip strengthening exercise thing - the 'medium difficulty' one> then I'll answer your question.’”
He said ‘I’ll tell you what, if you can close this <grip strengthening exercise thing - the 'medium difficulty' one> then I'll answer your question.’
#61 “I did all of the 'event planning' for my team. Organizing team happy hours, team outings, etc. One person thanked me saying that they couldn't do it, they'd be bad at it….”
I did all of the 'event planning' for my team. Organizing team happy hours, team outings, etc. One person thanked me saying that they couldn't do it, they'd be bad at it. Saying that I'm good at this social organizing stuff and if we ever get a woman on our team then they could help.
#60 “‘We can't blame the entire population just for a few 'bad apples.' What that cop did was wrong, but they're not all like that.’”
‘We can't blame the entire population just for a few 'bad apples.' What that cop did was wrong, but they're not all like that.’