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Content Warning: sexism, racism, ageism, sexual harassment and assault, weight discrimination, pregnancy discrimination, suicide and mental illness.

#19 “I later learned that this dev had an open HR case against him for harassing a female team member.”
I later learned that this dev had an open HR case against him for harassing a female team member.

#18 “‘Well then why didn't you say something or do something at the time???’”
‘Well then why didn't you say something or do something at the time???’

#17 “…he told me that I did really good work and it had a lot of impact, but for me to get to the next level, he needed to see me ‘championing the success of others.’”
…he told me that I did really good work and it had a lot of impact, but for me to get to the next level, he needed to see me ‘championing the success of others.’

#16 “During this meeting, he told me: ‘I'm gonna need you to tone it down.’”
During this meeting, he told me: ‘I'm gonna need you to tone it down.’

#15 “…he told me that he thought my previous manager made a mistake and shouldn't have promoted me.”
…he told me that he thought my previous manager made a mistake and shouldn't have promoted me.

#14 “If we acknowledge that the pipeline is broken, why are we using a broken system to fill our rosters?”
If we acknowledge that the pipeline is broken, why are we using a broken system to fill our rosters?

#13 “I deeply regret taking such a soft stance against this kind of ‘office humour’.”
I deeply regret taking such a soft stance against this kind of ‘office humour’.

#12 “Small companies and founders lack the oversight and media spotlight of big companies, allowing their personal biases to work unimpeded.”
Small companies and founders lack the oversight and media spotlight of big companies, allowing their personal biases to work unimpeded.

#11 “I was speaking passionately about a particular option when one of my male colleagues said, ‘Okay, okay...just calm down.’”
I was speaking passionately about a particular option when one of my male colleagues said, ‘Okay, okay...just calm down.’

#10 “One day at lunch, I learned about ‘the list’.”
One day at lunch, I learned about ‘the list’.

#9 “… to which one of my teammates who was listening, quickly interjected to say ‘but it is also true that men work harder as you go up the ladder’”
I was describing how the data pointed out that the pay gap increases as you go up the experience/level ladder in the company - to which one of my teammates who was listening, quickly interjected to say 'but it is also true that men work harder as you go up the ladder'.

#8 “A male friend IMs me ‘is it bad that I want to tweet sexist things with the GHC hashtag?’”
A male friend IMs me ‘is it bad that I want to tweet sexist things with the GHC hashtag?’

#7 “It seems that following process is more important than women feeling safe, and the success of his product is more important than the culture he creates in his team.”
It seems that following process is more important than women feeling safe, and the success of his product is more important than the culture he creates in his team.

#6 “The biased norms of our industry outright punish women who try to act with the directness and self-assuredness that I am ‘expected’ to display.”
The biased norms of our industry outright punish women who try to act with the directness and self-assuredness that I am ‘expected’ to display.

#5 “I have never been asked to interview a female or Black candidate for a Principal Engineer position…”
I have never been asked to interview a female or Black candidate for a Principal Engineer position…

#4 “When female ICs focus like men on individual deliverables, they're viewed as ‘not being a team player’…”
When female ICs focus like men on individual deliverables, they're viewed as ‘not being a team player’…

#3 “…we came up with a 'safe word' for her to IM me so that I could swing by her desk and rescue her.”
…we came up with a 'safe word' for her to IM me so that I could swing by her desk and rescue her.

#2 “I would speak, my coworker would repeat.”
I would speak, my coworker would repeat.

#1 “‘Soo… What’s your deal?’”
‘Soo… What’s your deal?’